Dating

    When I was in high school, I had this standard for myself that I wasn't going to date anyone till I was sixteen. Well low and behold, a guy transferred to my school about three months before I turned sixteen, and I was super excited because he seemed to like me and I liked the idea of a guy liking me. We would hang out all the time before school, during school lunch, and after school. I remember he had asked me to be his girlfriend and I had told him that my parents wouldn't allow me to "date" anyone till I was sixteen. Well it came to my sixteenth birthday and he had asked me to be his girlfriend, and of course I said yes.

    It didn't take me long to realize that this guy was definitely not someone that I wanted in my life forever. All we did was hangout at the skatepark or at school. I never went on an actual date with the guy. I’ve realized that dating today is very rare. A lot of the time, people will “hangout” but won’t take the time to go on dates, but going on actual dates is so crucial to developing a good relationship. 

    When someone goes on a date, there are three P’s that are essential. Plan, Paid and Paired off. When an individual plans a date, it makes it known that their actions are intentional. It facilitates “knowing” that there are potential feelings and it could lead to a bigger relationship later on. As your relationship develops over time, you will have to plan together. This includes planning on where to work or where to live or if and when to start having children. By starting out your relationship by simply planning a date, you are growing your planning skills much better for the future.

    Paying for a date does not necessarily mean spending a lot of money to impress your partner. “Paying” for the date could simply mean producing the resources necessary for the date or applying your surrounding resources to have a date. You could be dirt poor but still “pay” for a date by using your leftovers for a picnic or filling up water bottles for the both of you to go on a hike. I believe in today’s world, people don’t go on as many dates because there is a lot of pressure. Either they feel like they aren’t good enough, they will be turned down, or it is simply “wasting” time. Our egos are so big that society no longer wants to go on dates because they don’t want to make a fool of themselves. Well I say that is bull crap. Supplying resources for a date allows you to prepare for the future when you have a family. It builds your skills into bettering yourself for the real deal relationship.

    The last “P” that is essential for helping you to make your relationship grow through dating is being “paired” off. When you are on a date, just you and your partner, you will have this sense of responsibility. Knowing that you are responsible for someone else helps one build character. It also shows your partner you focus is solely on them. When going on dates, you might have the possibility of dating a total snob or a brat. By being paired off with them, you learn how to stick through the whole date while also learning that that particular someone has a trait that you can not stand, which will also allow you to know what you don’t want in a forever partner. By being paired off, you learn to cherish the moments that you do have with just them.

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