Family Relations

       Did you know that social media portrays that fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce? It is crazy for me that the world has come so far as to believe that marriages aren’t special anymore. I just want to say first how grateful I am to be able to grow up knowing that being married and having that eternal companion is part of God’s plan. I think today so many people no longer believe that there are commandments out there or standards let alone a God. Regardless, children are growing up in a faithless world where they only get the benefits of having mothers in their lives or only get the benefits of having fathers in their lives. Keeping a marriage is tough but far from impossible.      The average couple divorces after having one to two children. Why is that so? It's because children are an unexpected disruption in the couple's normal life. When the couple have children they expect everything to stay the same, but it can’t possibly. When you...

     I was fourteen years old when I found out my parents were getting a divorce. I remember the exact night that my dad pulled me aside into my room and broke the news to me. I didn’t cry and I didn’t really feel pity for my dad either because I knew that he was doing more harm to my family than good in some ways. The next day I went to school and I sobbed in my best friend's arms. I think I had realized just how different things were going to be in my family. I was the oldest of seven children and my dad had been the bread maker of the family before the divorce. I feel like when my dad was in the home, he taught us to work for money. As we grew up we only did chores as long as there was something in it for us. I remember when my dad left the home, we didn’t have nearly as much income coming into the home and my mom had said that the older children were going to have to help her a lot more to keep the family afloat. I shouldn’t have been as worried about finances as much...

     I know communication can be so difficult. Sometimes you might say something in person that just doesn’t come across the right way or you may say something with the right words but your body language doesn’t convey positive feelings. Your mind communicates what words you use, the tone of voice that you use those words with, and how your body and facial expressions appear all together within under half a second. What you say and how you say it can determine what happens next in your life, literally. Communication is such a crucial part of a marriage and I know that is said a lot, but I don’t think people really understand just how crucial it is.      When we have a conversation with a loved one, or anyone for that matter, we have a thought or feeling that is being processed immediately. Our mind takes that thought or feeling and encodes it making it truly our own. We decide very quickly on how we are going to convey those feelings either by using more wo...

     I grew up in a very big family. I am the oldest of seven children and with that being said, I am the queen of recognizing different stressors that can occur within the family. I grew up witnessing people getting hurt, people struggling with finances, people struggling with addictions and relationships. I hate to break it to you, but practically everything can become a stressor. But what really determines if they are small stressors or big crises is dependent upon the resources that are available to the people experiencing the event in their life and how they respond to it.      Like I stated before, addiction can become a huge stressor within the family. To expand on this idea, I want to state the obvious. When someone focuses solely on whatever they are addicted to, they begin to form a relationship with that substance whether it is pornography, drugs or anything that is unhealthy. When that person forms this new connection with the substance, the oth...

     I found this topic specifically interesting. I grew up with a father who always told his children that men were created to have sex and women were created to bare children. While this does ring some truth, it does not define a man and a woman, but there is scientific reasoning as to why some men feel the way they do and why women may feel the way they do.      There are many reasons why some couples may participate in sexual intercourse with each other. They might be trying for a child, might want to feel passion, or may want to experience pleasure. But what is the cause for sexual intercourse deep down to the core. Women will have sex with their husband when they feel safe, close and warm. Men will have sex to feel safe, close and warm.      There are four stages of human response during sex; the excitement stage, plateau stage, orgasm stage, and resolution stage. During the excitement stage, men will experience physical arousal through...

     Being married is a beautiful thing. When you decide to marry someone, you are fully intending on loving that one person romantically, supporting them financially, and emotionally. It is the biggest commitment one can make to a person. But that doesn’t mean that it is easy. Have you ever thought about the changes marriage takes? When you get married, you are completely exposed to your partner. Not only are you creating your own family, but you also become a part of your partner's family and they become a part of your family. Your responsibility as a crucial player in your relationship is to cater to your partner's needs and the same thing applies to them.      Why do people get married today? Back in ancient Greece and Rome, people got married for political reasons. The middle class got married for economic reasons. But as time moves on, marriage has been more for love. Men have focused on being intimate with their wives instead of mistresses and women ...